Saturday, November 24, 2007

The 10 Lies Of Disordered Sexual Activity

I thought I would list some of the common lies I hear whispered in my moments of weakness, and their proper response:
  1. I'm incapable of winning this battle. This, of course, is tantamount to waving the white flag. I need to accept the various levels of culpability for my past failures as well as the victory I will achieve by God's grace.
  2. There's nothing I can do about my compulsion. I really need to ask myself "What have I been willing to do to overcome my compulsion?"
  3. I deserve this. I am indeed entitled to enjoy the good of life, but this is just a cheap substitute.
  4. This babe is so... God did not bring this person into existence so I could turn them into an object for my personal gratification.
  5. They want to be objectified. They are made in the image of God and no action on their part can eradicate that, or God's desire for their greatest good. I need to get with God's will for them.
  6. This makes me feel alive. This may get the blood flowing and the synapses popping, but this is just an illusion of life. Real life happens with real human encounters based on the well-being of all parties involved.
  7. No one is getting hurt. What if this were my sister or wife or mother? And what about me? Is this helping me reach my goal of loving with the love of God?
  8. It won't go as far as last time. This is a compulsion that I need to avoid at all costs because at some point I do end up loosing my freedom and my ability to choose. What can I choose now?
  9. It's no big deal. God will forgive me. God is not obliged to forgive me, but does so because he is merciful and loves me. Presumption is a serious sin that hardens my heart. True contrition (sorry over offending God, who is all-good and who didn't deserve my disobedience), not presumption, is what elicits God's mercy.
  10. God made me this way. My proclivity towards sin is because of original sin. Jesus came to set me free from being a slave to sin.